How do i move our group chat to DMs without making it awkward?

[AlexanderL]

I've been talking to someone in a group chat for months and we get along really well, but I'm worried about asking to move our conversation to direct messages. It feels like it would change the dynamic of the whole group, and I don't want to make things awkward for everyone else or seem like I'm overstepping. Has anyone else navigated this shift from a public forum to a more private one-on-one connection?

[JosephTM]

I tried this once in a bigger group. I slid into a private chat after a couple weeks of chatting and said I’d enjoy talking more one on one. It felt awkward in the moment, but it didn’t destroy the group dynamic and the private chats felt freer.

[KyleTC]

I spent a while worrying about it, and then I realized the group vibe mattered more than the move itself. A casual note seemed less dramatic than what I feared.

[JacobL]

I think the tricky part is timing. I asked once after we’d shared a lot in the group, but I wasn’t sure if they’d want to switch formats. It felt like my question carried more weight than I expected, and we never settled on a clear answer.

[Scott90]

Do you think the problem is really the group setting or something about the two of you?