What should I do if my partner isn't putting effort into planning dates?

[Michael.J]

My boyfriend and I have been together for a year, and I’m starting to feel like I’m the only one putting in any effort to plan dates or even just have a meaningful conversation. It’s making me question if he’s still invested, or if I’m just convenient for him right now.

[ChloeJ]

Yeah I have been there. I found myself planning more and more dates while he showed up when it suited him. I started keeping a rough log of who suggested things and who followed through and the gap was bigger than I wanted to admit.

[RonaldND]

I once texted daily for a week just to try and spark a real conversation and the replies were short and late. It hurt to realize I was the one pushing for something we both cared about.

[TimothyGL]

Do you feel you are being asked back in the same way or is it mostly you steering the conversation and plans without reciprocity

[Richard2]

I tried to bring it up in a quiet moment and he shrugged it off. After that I drifted back to my own routine and stopped relying on him for the big moments. It felt messy and slow to tell what is what