How can i handle mixed greeting styles at work and with family?

[Stella90]

I’ve realized my family’s idea of a proper greeting is a full hug and kiss on the cheek, but my new coworkers all just give a quick nod or wave. Now I’m constantly second-guessing myself in social situations, worried I’m coming on too strong or seeming too cold.

[EleanorG]

I grew up with big hugs too, and I used to dread the moment I stepped into the office. I started watching how people greet in the office—handshake for formal stuff, a quick nod and a friendly 'hi' for casual moments. I tried keeping it to a simple hello and a small nod, and it cut down the second-guessing quite a bit.

[Brian_W]

One time I asked a coworker what they prefer and they laughed, said they’re not offended by either side as long as you’re sincere. It helped a little, but I still overthink it in the hallway when I’m half asleep. I’m not sure I’ve learned a universal rule yet, just small signals that feel safe.

[IsabellaA]

Maybe the real problem isn’t the greeting at all, maybe it’s the pressure to juggle two social scripts at home and at work. Do you think you’re chasing a universal standard that doesn’t exist, and that’s making you overthink every moment?

[Kenneth81]

I stopped chasing the perfect move and tried a tiny wave plus a quick 'hi' then moved on. It felt awkward at first, but people responded more warmly than I expected and the anxiety faded a bit after a few days.