What’s the right way to acknowledge a friend's family during Qingming?

[AnthonyS]

I'm trying to figure out how to properly acknowledge my friend's family during the recent Qingming Festival, as they were in mourning. I sent a message but it felt insufficient, and I'm worried the cultural weight of the tomb-sweeping day means I should have done more in person.

[Timothy43]

During Qingming Festival I kept it simple: a short message, a small card, and I offered to drop off meals or help with chores if they needed it. It felt like a real attempt, but the whole day carries so much weight that I worried it still looked like nothing.

[GaryJ]

I thought showing up in person would land better, so I considered a quick visit, but they seemed to want quiet time. I held off and sent a follow up text instead, which felt safer but still awkward.

[NoraGH]

A few weeks later I asked if they needed anything at all, or if I should just leave it be. No reply, so I guessed they wanted space.

[JackC]

Do you think the problem is that I misread what they needed, or that the whole idea of a formal acknowledgment is just not helpful right now?