Why do my group chat messages get ignored and come off as rude?

[Victoria62]

Conflict is inevitable in any relationship, but how you handle it makes all the difference. I'm always looking for effective couple communication tips that help resolve disagreements in healthy ways.

Some couple communication tips that have worked well for us include taking a break if things get too heated (with an agreement to come back to the discussion), focusing on the specific issue rather than bringing up past grievances, and making sure both people feel heard before looking for solutions.

What are your best couple communication tips for conflict resolution? I'm particularly interested in advice for couples who tend to avoid conflict or who have very different communication styles.

[Eleanor_C]

I’ve noticed that my messages in our group chat often get completely ignored, even when I’m asking a direct question. It makes me wonder if I’m accidentally using a tone that comes off as dismissive or if it’s just the nature of rapid-fire digital conversations.

[Mia59]

Yeah, I’ve been there. I’ve asked a direct question and watched the thread move on like my message wasn’t there.

[JacobD]

I tried keeping it short and throwing in a quick check, but it still went quiet.

[KennethFT]

Sometimes I wonder if it’s the pace more than the tone. In a fast thread, my message just gets buried.

[Scott.T]

I started DMing a few people to see if they saw it, and some replies came back. That helped me see the issue wasn’t only the chat.

[Noah_H]

Could the real problem be how the group uses the chat rather than your tone?

[IsabellaYR]

I did try adding a concrete ask with a deadline, and a handful replied later, but several never did. It felt inconsistent.