Why does dating feel one-sided in this relationship?

[Riley_M]

My boyfriend and I have been together for a year, and I’m starting to feel like I’m the only one making an effort to plan dates or even just suggest a weekend activity. I bring it up and he agrees it’s important, but nothing changes. I’m worried this imbalance is creating some quiet resentment on my end.

[AvaZT]

I hear you. When you’re the one always proposing plans, it starts to feel like you’re carrying the social load without a teammate.

[VioletL]

I tried a small experiment: I asked him to pick two date ideas and we’d lock one in for the weekend. He picked one thing, we talked about it, and nothing actually got scheduled for weeks.

[Anthony.G]

Sometimes I wonder whether the real issue is something bigger than dates, like energy or alignment, and we’re stuck in a loop of talk without real closeness.

[WilliamMJ]

One afternoon I briefly loosened the leash, stopped asking as much, and watched him initiate something—twice—only to have those plans fizzle out again, which left me more tired.